In this short video Craig explains how to solve your problems! The solution is usually you.
A change in my attitude and/or my behaviors is highly effective for me and highly efficient for my group. It’s the best place to start.
And here is one of Craig’s Good Group Tips called The Best Solutions Begin with Self.
Here’s what Craig says in the video:
Hi everybody. Hey it’s Craig Freshley here, about to start a meeting, but I wanted to share this idea with you: So often we might be upset with our group or upset with another person and we get to thinking that my life would be better only if you would change.
Well, I’m here to tell you that actually I am the best solution to my life getting better, and I am really only the only thing that I have control over.
We spend huge inefficiencies in groups when people try to change something wrong with their life by asking the group to change a policy. Or by asking someone else to change behavior. That works sometimes, but I’m here to say that the first place to turn to make things better is self.
The best question is, “What can I do to make things better?” rather than what should she do, what should he do, what should the group do, what should the government do, to make things better.
I have control over my own attitudes and behaviors. And while I wish that other people would change and I wish institutions would change — and I can work for those things — the surefire way to make things better, for me, is to change my attitude and my behavior. I am the first solution to most problems in my life.
It’s so true that self is what anyone has control over. How we interpret and react to what happens. It is so empowering to realize this. And working to bring out our better selves can make us attractive to those we want to influence. If you have access counseling can help achieve this state of being.
Great idea and advice. Working to change myself creates a personal mind set to be more receptive to differing ideas.